I Just Cancelled All My Bootcamps

Posted on May 8, 2012 by DaveC

You read that headline correctly.

All our bootcamps have been cancelled.

So why on earth would I cancel something that
has been so successful for us .. that in 7 years of
coaching we’ve never once given out a refund?

That would be because we came up with something even more
effective.

Here is the problem with the “pua community bootcamp”

Its usually a meat grinder where a ton of guys come to learn
from a few instructors.

All fine and dandy until its time to go infield
and the best you as a student can hope for is a 3-to-1
student to instructor ratio.

Here is the deal.

All your actual progress isn’t made in a seminar room

Its made in the field.

And with a 3 to 1 ratio its literally impossible to deliver
the level of detail attention a student needs to break through in one night.
(see below for the exact technical reason why)

Not to mention the entire bar getting ‘used up’ in 5 minutes
cause 10 bootcamp students hit it.
(have you ever tried to open a set that another student
just got blown out of … its painful)

Or a bunch of guys using similar openers.

When a ‘bootcamp’ descends on a bar its
a shitty experience almost immediately for all
the women in that venue and I hate doing it.

So from now till forever – WERE NEVER DOING
INFIEDL BOOTCAMPS

All we do now is 1:1 … as in ONE on ONEs. Privates, whatever
you want to call them.

One instructor per infield student. FOREVER. Period.

The reason is that we have an awful lot of private clients and residentials in the last year we’ve perfected our 1:1 coaching to the point that its SOO MUCH better then group coaching that there is really no comparison (and our group coachign has always gotten rave reviews anyway)

Yes, i know im tossing out a ton of money by doing things this way but our other revenue sources (upcoming TV stuff, nationally published book, IM biz in general) are all doing well enough…

That i can afford to just NOT DO WHAT every other pickup company does which is mill students through more or less useless infield.

What im doing now is only doing 1-on-1s. Bootcamps are banned at Mehow, Inc forever.

Why are 1-on-1s so much better …

After you get solid training, all that matters is your performance in field.

Your performance consists of thousands of little things that you do

And basically if your instructor isn’t watching you like a freaking stalker
and improving your every move, subcom, nuance, intonation, facial expression
, or coming in to wing you at the rate time to deal with an obstacle/guy you don’t
know how to deal with etc you aren’t making progress and getting breakthroughs.

and ultimately your breakthroughs are all that matter to you.

And to get breakthroughs you need plenty of women to talk to which
a bootcamp robs you off pretty much instantly.

Whether its talking to a few girls for the first time, getting numbers, makeouts, pulling,
or sealing the deal … all those things are breakthroughs TO YOU.

And if your instructor isn’t obsessed with you its just not gonna happen.

So there you have it.

Fuck bootcamps. they honestly are only really beneficial for the companies and
not their students and were not gonna do em anymore.

We’re now the residential and 1:1 company.

-mehow
p.s. If you want to check out the schedule its here here. And fyi, these are my last 1:1′s that im coaching personally due to the TV show coming out in the fall.
p.p.s. The other reason I love 1:1s vs the other ‘crap’ is that way I get to connect with and know my students very closely. There is really nothing more rewarding then getting one guy, YOU, results and seeing it in your eyes. I bond with all the guys I teach, I’m a natural ‘connector’ and when I can’t connect because theres too many students I get pissed off, literally. so again … fuck bootcamps.
p.p.p.s. Oh ya on 1:1s I get to wing the living daylights out of you if you need it, which means I frequently setup D2s or SNLs or pulls while i’m coaching. Another reason I love 1:1s. All the guys out there that claim they get laid infield while coaching 10 man bootcamps are absolutely and completely FULL OF SHIT. Just try and get laid with a hot girl you just met while you have a posse of 10 dudes following you around. Its literally impossible. I’ve never seen it done unless your just straight ignoring your students.
p.p.p.p.s. Btw, ya for 1:1 we have to charge more money but to make that accessible we
now have all sorts of payment plans and thus far weve been able to accomodate quite a few
residential and private students in this manner. Basically, “your job is your credit”. Apply here.
p.p.p.p.p.s. If you’re already signed up for a bootcamp you just got upgraded to a 1:1 … for FREE. So for all you guys that signed up before this email … congrats … smooth move … and respect on supporting us even before we banned the bootcamp.

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Social Circle Sarging: O.P.P. Edition

Posted on May 1, 2012 by DaveC

Hey Guys,

“Who’s down with O.P.P.?
Ya You Know … Me”"

OPP = Other People’s Pussy

I don’t think the 90s rap group “Naughty by Nature” was thinking what we were thinking when we wrote this blog post but were definitley “Down Wit’ O.P.P.”
(and its not what you think … this isn’t a ‘how to steal g/f’s method’)

Late last year we hit you up with the new improved social circle sarging method that DaveC came up with, really good for getting new girls in your social circle, even better when they know you’re into pick up or if you have a player vibe. Since then we’ve continued to experiment with a variety of different social circle situations.

You see when there are a tonne of social circle girls chilling and you’re sub-comms / game is pretty tight it’s like shooting fish in a barrel. Of course there are a lot of different permutations of the social circle structure but out of all these, one really caught my eye.

What if other guys brought a large amount of girls to us? What if we didn’t need a social circle at all? Of course it’s not as simple as that. How many guys are going to just start straight up bringing girls to you?

After some trial and error we hooked it up.

The magic holy grail of how to sleep with girls you never have to approach, cause they approach you … at your house.

The results where nothing short of phenomenal, but there are some subtle changes that become important like:

Giving Social Value

We often talk about giving value to girls but in this case your first requirement is to know guys who have a good tight social circle of women and help hook them up. In our case we looked no further then the local club promoter. His job is to consistently bring in high quality women to nightclubs but with that requirement there are a couple of real problems such as:

1) He can never find enough cool guys to chill with his girls

You see the good promoters get all their girls in one place then drag them all to the club, the pre-party gets the girls ready for a fun-filled night. Unfortunately girls like dudes (most of em anyway) and if there’s only 1 guy to 14 girls it’s gonna be a problem.

However, those of us trained socially are perfect, we know how to keep many girls satisfied at any one time without over-stepping the mark or creating any weird vibes that most creeper dudes would generate. (Note: Most guys start hitting on every girl straight away or just have bad calibration)

2) He doesn’t have a cool place to party.

A good promoter we know ended up getting some noise citations, so we let him use our place for his pre-parties, it got crazy fast, of course if you use your place for the pre-party it will also be used for the after party 90% of the time, and your bedroom is. Right. There.

Another great part of the pre-party is that no one trashes your place, people don’t drink too much because they don’t want to get wasted before the night really gets going.

Even better you don’t need the most amazing party place as long as it looks amazing, check out this video by our good friend LoveDrop from VA to see what we mean:

NOTE: Avoid promoters who want $$’s in exchange for hooking you up, there is pretty much always a way around this, paying is usually never worth it. It sets you up as another guy paying for the company of women. Also, stay away from ‘c***whore’ promoters. Not what you want. Avoid. Bad. Sarging girls that are obsessed with getting (starts with C) generally doesn’t result in any sex or positive relationships or positive anything for that matter.

The Importance Of The Pre-Party:

Trying to pull fresh sets that you havent really talked to before right prior to the after party can work but it often doesn’t because …

At the end of the nite *every dude* is trying to pull in a panicky ‘I’m desperate to pull so I get some pussy’ manner, the girls all know this … so even though you might have tight game and be totally un-needy – you get put in that ‘desparate’ category by the girls regadless and you have to work way harder to get things to happen.

Consequently, depending on the club, doing all the heavy sarging there without making an initial impression BEFORE the venue can set you back, costing you a good time later on that night.

To sarge other people’s social circles effectively you’ll want to follow the following 3 step formula:

1) have all of them pre-party at your house and make sure the ratio is good (at least 3 girls for every guy)
2) pick one girl (preferably one that you know, from your social circle that you invited specifically for this purpose) that you just have normal low value velocity comfort conversation with so it looks like your hitting on NOBODY.
3) Don’t really talk to all the other girls until they IOI you multipe times.

This puts in complete contrast to the guy who thinks he can mack on every girl that passes through his door.

Then after a while girls will start showing you interest on your disinterest, allowing you to transition straight to mid-game. Ill give a girl 15 mins of stuff like …

HB10justgottomyhouse: “Hi, I’m Sarah :) . Is this your place.”
me: “ya” (ignoring her pretty much)
HB10justgottomyhouse: “OK, soo …. what your name.”
me: “mehow” (still ignoring her pretty much)
HB10justgottomyhouse: “OK, nice to meet you.”
me: keeps taking to the girls from step 1)

So I’m not totally ignoring them … Im just giving them enough of an answer to their questions as to not be a total social violator but im IODing them with my body language the entire time and I go back to talking to my faux target.

After 30 mins or so of this you will have girls staring at you really hard, hair tossing, giving you proximity, finding excuses to sit next to you etc and then you can just pick the hottest one and go straight into normal mid game and viola… odds are youre gonna have an extra house guest that nite and maybe the start of something big and awesome.

Usually all this takes is game and a small apartment makeover and a few bottles of cheap liquor with mixers.

Choose The High End Venues, Get The Hotter Girls:

You want a promoter who not only goes to the higher venues but gets free bottles, tables and free entry and a cut of the bar due to the copious amounts of women he is bringing to the club. Good promoters can get anywhere between $200 – $500 a night for what they do on top of the perks mentioned above.

When they are promoting at the hotter clubs, they have hotter girls show up. We actually went to a club recently that was turning away any girl that wasn’t a 9 or above. Usually these places are attract the extremely attractive and the extremely wealthy. If you’re promoter is working these venues then it’s a good bet that he’s pulling in really hot women. So the best nights to host the pre-party are the when the best clubs are popping.

One last point, make sure you know which girls the promoter is hooking up with, you always want to avoid starting something with a promoters girl for obvious reasons.

That’s it guys, hopefully these mini-steps will help those of you who want to have some cool guy friends that can offer value to each other and sarge some women too.

Mehow & DaveC
p.s. And if you want a pic of what this looks like here is one from last week ….
(yes, our residential students get in on this every week … we have 2 spots left in 2012 … go here if you want to apply)

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UPDATED, again: Mehow’s TV Show Signed To Production Co.

Posted on March 19, 2012 by mehow

There been a bunch of rumors and what not … but here is the ‘official word’ ….

If you got questions then post em in comments.

UPDATE: top 3 best comments/suggestions/questions posted in the comments get you a free copy of INFIELD EXPOSED. (ends Friday at midnight and well annouce the winners Saturday at noon here – WINNing comments picked below in comments section. email support@mehow.tv with your info so we can get you your loot)

Also, as per today’s announcement … all of my incredibly beneficial instructional infrared ‘in the wild’ instructional products are going away permanently because they don’t match my new ‘tv image.’ The production needs everything to ‘match’ and given the world changing implications of the new show for both you and me – I have to agree. So … We have till Friday, March 30th to completely sell out the remaining boxed set physical copies of the community’s first infield video product ‘INFIELD EXPOSED’. After friday Infield Exposed will never be available again, ever, so get one of the last copies ever now.

Were doing a 25% off discount with code “FIRSTINFIELD” at this link …

www.infieldexposed.com

-m

—

*Major Spoilers Below*

In case you were wondering if a “pickup
TV show” was coming to a major channel
near you soon, this email is your official
answer.

Why is this relevant to you?
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Major Phone Game Revision + A Hotty With A Goat (complete thread)

Posted on January 25, 2012 by mehow

Ok guys.

Big pieces of news today.

I have a major change to how I run phone game that I’m just plain giving away below along with a huge example thread right from my own phone.

I’ve been in field a ton recently screening for my TV show wifey (look for big public announcement on that really soon … the TV show … not the wifey) and sarging in LA is great.

But I’ve been having a problem.
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Happy New Year: Your Guide To Great Game In 2012

Posted on January 1, 2012 by DaveC

Happy New Year guys!

So it’s 2012 and I’m excited, I got a lot of cool stuff planned personally this year, and I know we got a lot more innovations coming up on the pick up front so stay tuned for those as the year progresses.

Now let’s get to you, how can you make this year the best one yet in terms of dating and relationships. You know I wanted to hit you guys with something big this year, something that you can sink your teeth into and use as a template to start you getting better.

Here it is, I’ve made this blog post about the best posts we’ve ever put on this blog. This blog has been going on for 7 years now and there are many, many amazing articles on here, I’d go so far as to say there is even a basic framework for getting yourself success and doing so very quickly, the key is finding the information.

I took care of that one for you, so really, I guess the only question is how much success do you want this year?
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The NYE Lay Guide: Celebrate The New Year With A New Girl

Posted on December 31, 2011 by DaveC

Guys,

What up!!! DaveC and Mehow here again and we wanted to give you one simple thing to reign in 2012; a game plan.

Simple enough, no? What the key things you want to get doing to make your new year celebrations end with a bang, trust me, there is nothing more fun then waking up in a new year with a hot girl laying right beside you. Trust me, when it happens you KNOW it’s going to be a good year.

So, foreplay aside, how do we get from the one situation (your hand) to the other (hot girl).
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The Residential: Day NINETY – 3 Types Of Men, And How To Fix

Posted on December 20, 2011 by DaveC

Guys,

The Residential is over and it went out with a bang. When we set out to do this we knew that the program we were running, we knew that it was intense both on a personal level and professionally. We’re giving you one last big piece of value from this effort below. We’re standing on our last legs, so to speak and are very much looking forward to a week of NOT sarging. Before we get to the value here is where we were at mentally a few nights ago …


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10 Days In Field: Day 8 – Indirect Social Circle Game

Posted on December 12, 2011 by DaveC

Hey Guys,

DaveC here. Recently I’ve been getting a lot of sex from social circle girls… A lot.

It’s gotten to the point where Mehow is having to tell me to put that social circle girl down and get back into the field to do some good old fashioned cold approach so I don’t get rusty.

Here’s the thing though, experimentation breeds creativity and with some thorough testing I’m now happy to bring you a new social circle model specifically tailored to dealing with the big problem with social circle game: The girls that are expecting you to hit on them.

Maybe you’re only doing social circle, maybe you have a reputation as a player… Maybe she is coming to the house pre-warned that you are a PUA “POOAAAAAAAH!” dude.

Whatever the case this is the ‘method’ that will enable you to overcome her distrust and win her over. I’ve field tested this pretty consistently and after passing it onto Mehow just a week ago he’s already used it to pull 2 girls to his bedroom, one who knew what he did for a living and a second who came to the house to do a model shoot for a good friend (fyi, models showing up to shoots are always wary due to all the shady photographers trying to screw them).

Before I continue I just wanna take a second to clarify some things about social circle game in general and make it clear where we are coming from.

Firstly social circle game still requires a decent level of game in and of itself, as such we’d still always recommend that guys start with night game to get them up to speed and start the game building process.

(Mehow EDIT: I would say that trying to do social circle when you have no cold approach is just going to result in fail – social circle is only easy in that there is no approach anxiety – otherwise its different game, not easier)

Secondly, social circles are built on mutual value, i.e. you are constantly inviting the girls to something cool and vice versa. As time progresses your regular social circle girls will continue to bring new and different girls into the group for you.

Thirdly, you must never sleep with those girls that are the ‘seed’ girls, i.e. they bring new girls to your entourage overtime and thus sleeping with them will make them both i) want to be your girlfriend and ii) have them stop the flow of new girls.

Finally, social circle game should be ran discretely, which means keep what you and certain girls get up to quiet and don’t make big overt moves in front of all her friends and the rest of your social circle.

Meet HB9skinny_bitch

So just the other day a stunning girl walked in the house, easily a 9 both in body and personality. I initially ignored her and remained distant but to everyone else I was the cool, normal center of the party.

I effortlessly gave value to everyone around me, except Ashley. When it came time to go clubbing with the entourage I started talking to Ashley. I was completely genuine building comfort and being normal. When I saw that the conversation was getting too normal for a club I ran banter on everyone around me; the nearest person. Then back to comfort with her.

She was all over me. Then I found out it was Mehow’s girl and he continued doing the same thing till she was back in his room that night. :)

So what did I actually do?

Ok, so to start with the classic pick up technique applies, you break rapport disproportionally. You can’t go to far with this as then you cross over into social violation territory but you remain distant, this is not normal social circle behaviour for a guy and she will wonder why you aren’t all up on her, especially if she is attractive.

The other key thing is that you are constantly delivering emotional value and highly stimulating yet self amusing content to the rest of the social circle as normal. If there is one girl that you usually go over the top with / can over game for fun because she knows that’s what you are like.

This demonstrates several attractive characteristics such as being the life of the party, that you are a fun and cool guy… It further creates that question “Why isn’t he like this with me?”

Then later, ideally at a party event you can simply start talking to her, I like to start with: “Hey, I’m Dave, I haven’t really talked to you, I’m at the asshole recovery meetings… I’m on step 1.” She laughs and you get super genuine with her, you aren’t treating her how she expects you to, with everyone else you’re joking and fun but with her you seem to be real.

When buying temperature goes down you run banter (and 10SSA) on the other girls in your social circle, you can also mess with your guy friends too to create the same value.

Now you’ve created a real connection the interaction will start to move back to a normal pick up. Better yet we’ve had girls in our social circle say things like: “I’m so glad you were just chill and normal with .”

This shift in their perception has them bringing more girls over and we are free to do this as many times as we want.

So to summarise, this isn’t the normal social circle method, this is the method when you start hitting on a social circle girl and encounter disinterest and challenges you swap into this method and take it from there.

-D

(Mehow summary:

The Two “phases” to the “New Social CircleTM” Method:
1. ignore the target and run BT game on everybody else (“I’m Rick James, Bitch”) – 15-30 mins
2. be super nice to the target (almost “chode-like”) while you Rick James everybody else.

And this only works when you have a ton of logistical control and everybody can easily hear you – like at your house or if you have good club logistics.)

P.S. It’s still super important to run regular cold approach and build the skillset because that’ll give you the reference points to become consistent.

Plus cold approach pick up is fun, see Exhibit A:

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10 Days In Field: Day 6, Daryl Hannah Gets Sarged, RPs, Consistency Secrets and No More Crazy Bitches

Posted on November 21, 2011 by mehow

Tired again.

Crazy bitches wear me out.

When your consistent in field you just run into every situation imaginable and your breadth of experience becomes a vast land of good, bad, crazy, pretty, and fun reference points that prepare you to handle everything.

I’m going to give away the biggest secret I have to consistency at the end of this blog but first let me relate to you some fresh tales from the field that should tie all this together.

If you get in field you know that hotness in girls can cause some pretty severe personality defects.
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10 Days In Field: Day 5, Luck – 3 Ways To Make Your Own

Posted on November 16, 2011 by DaveC

Guys,

Frequently we have students at The Residential who go out and they’re relying on luck. They are relying on finding that one girl that is so into them that they don’t need game, they just need to not mess up.

If there is one thing I’ve learned time and time again it’s that in this world, more often then not, you make you own luck.

What does this mean in practical terms? It means that when the going gets tough, the tough step up.

It means that when you don’t get your ‘ideal response’ you don’t move on, you don’t consign yourself to the idea that it wasn’t meant to be, you dominate.

The best guys in field are also the guys that don’t take the women they are talking to or themselves to seriously. That doesn’t mean that you goo overboard and act crazy but it does mean that you continue to self amuse and to move things forward.
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